10 Myths About Anal Sex That Might Surprise You!
10 Myths About Anal Sex That Might Surprise You!
Anal Sex Myths and Facts
Anal Sex Myths
Many people still consider anal sex to be taboo. But according to a recent reportfrom the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 36% of men have tried it at least once. That’s a lot of guys when you think about it.
Talking about “anal” can make some people uncomfortable. This is particularly true for men who identify as “straight” and consider “backdoor” action a “homosexual thing”.
The research, however, suggests otherwise.
When you consider recent studies that suggests more “straight” men are having “gay” sex, it makes the proverbial waters a bit murkier.
Given interest in the topic, we thought it might be useful to present 10 common myths about anal sex you might not know. For our purposes, we’ve tried to keep the material focused on same sex related themes.
Some of what follows may be familiar to you. Other myths, however, might surprise you. Read them all in order to grasp the larger context. Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
1. PENILE PENETRATION IS REQUIRED
In the most technical sense, this one is a myth. That’s because anytime a person’s anus is involved in sexual gratification, it constitutes a form of anal sex.
Example activities of anal sex include:
- Toy use
- Strap on (Pegging)
- Hand action (fisting)
And it is worth noting that one does not need to be “gay” in order to engage in (or enjoy) backdoor activities. After all, pleasure doesn’t hinge on sexual orientation.
2. ALWAYS HURTS
While it is true that some people experience pain while on the receiving end of anal sex, this isn’t true for everyone. Pain, like all other sensations, is subjective and is tied to a person’s perceptions.
But pain related to anal sex doesn’t always hurt. Depending upon the activity, the person (s) involved and other factors, an individual may not experience pain at all.
- Size of penis, toy, finger, etc.
- A person’s pain threshold.
- Use of high quality lubricant
- Intensity of action
- Personal psychological state (i.e. mood).
3. BOTTOMS ONLY HAVE “ANAL”
This is perhaps one of the biggest myths floating around today. Using our definition of anal sex above, any time a person engages in one of the points mentioned from myth #1, they are technically engaging in some form of anal sex.
And while it is true some men identify as “Total Bottoms”, it doesn’t mean they aren’t capable of pleasuring their “top” mate in different ways. If you identify as a bottom man, keep this in mind the next time you orally stimulating your partner’s rectum.
4. PHYSICAL DAMAGE IS LIKELY
Yet another myth that seems to be part of the mainstream chit-chat. When you peel back the metaphorical onion, one finds the strength of this myth linked to strong social taboos – with whiffs of homophobia at the center.
Here’s the truth. Any type of sexual activity done improperly can theoretically cause damage. Just ask any man who has received a toothy BJ.
Provided there aren’t any pre-existing medical conditions, “physical damage” is extremely unlikely. Obviously, it is important that a sufficient amount of lubricant is used, since the anus doesn’t create any of its own.
For people looking to engage in backdoor fun for the first time, it’s important to keep this in mind.
5. CONDOMS “RUIN” THE EXPERIENCE
For many people, use of a condom as part of anal sex is a requirement. Others, however, don’t want anything latex near their hole. But it would be inaccurate to believe that rubbers ruin the experience.
The decision to use a condom is up to the consenting adults involved. The researchdoes show that wrapping it up can help to protect against various STI’s; particularly when it comes to backdoor entry.
6. ONCE YOU GIVE HIM ANAL, THAT’S ALL HE’LL WANT
Usually, the people who spread these kinds of myths are greedy bottoms who have no interest in switching roles or mutually pleasing a mate.
In truth, a person is no more likely to “always” want backdoor action anymore then wanting a BJ after getting one.
Sexual experiences are largely grounded in psychology, meaning both mind and body are part of the dynamic. Receiving doesn’t cause an “addiction” to being topped.
In fact, studies suggest that nearly half of gay men have who’ve tried receptive anal sex ultimately decided it’s not for them.
7. YOUR HOLE WILL GET STRETCHED OUT
Back in the 1970’s, a myth was floating around that a group of gay men had received so much backdoor action that they lost control of their bowel movements. The rumor turned out to be untrue.
Like other anal sex myths, this one is linked to anti-gay stereotypes that tell the tale of negative consequences for same sex activities.
Here is the truth. Your anus isn’t going to “stretch out”. Think about it. When you have a really good poop, does your hole turn into a rubber band?
What does happen (with time and experience) is a process whereby your sphincter learns to relax. This goes back to the mind body connection of sex discussed earlier.
8. IT CAN SAVE YOUR GAY RELATIONSHIP
Many people assume that in gay relationships, one person is always a top and the other is always bottom. While this may be true of some relationships, it’s not the case for all.
The power behind this myth is the believe that anal sex is emotionally curative and that it can somehow “heal” a troubled couple.
Of course, this is just fantasy and isn’t grounded in science. If a couple is experiencing sexual difficulties, there’s usually a lot more going on than guy riding issues.
9. IT’S DIRTY
Yet another myth tied to taboos associated with anal sex. In truth, backdoor action is no “dirtier” than any other sexual activity. What can make the experience unpleasant is when a person doesn’t properly prepare in advance. In fact, it’s a major turn off to many to many who take the top role.
But when you think about it, not cleaning your genitals in general can make for a dirty experience. Soap and water does wonders.
This is why it’s important for people who engage in backdoor action to take a series of steps as part of the lead up to fun.
10. YOUR MAN WILL LOSE RESPECT FOR YOU
A lot of people think once they “give it up” in back, their partner will lose respect for them. While there may be a tiny number of people this applies to, the opposite is actually true for most.
Anal sex is one of the most intimate activities a couple can engage in. When mutually consensual and properly executed, it can have the effect of bringing a couple closer together.
ANAL SEX BOOKS
If you are looking for more information on anal sex, including how to do it with minimal pain or stains, a great read to check out is How to Bottom by Woodpecker Media.
What’s great about this book are the non-clinical directions offered in everyday plain speak.
Another one to consider picking up is How to Top Like a Stud by Woody Miller. Not only is it informative, it also provides concrete steps to help make back door action enjoyable.
There is no increased risk of bleeding just because you have a bleeding disorder, as long as you are relaxed, find a position that’s comfortable and use plenty of lube. However, you could have treatment before, if not, and you do get a bleed, treat first if you can, then seek medical advice.
Some men with a bleeding disorder can occasionally have blood in their cum, called haemospermia. This can be worrying for both you, and the guy you’re with. You might need to explain to him why this happens and tell the centre, as you would any bleed.
*Further information related to your bleeding disorder and sexual activities can be found here: